Fatherhood in a Technological World – Message #20
There’s are reasons why studying a subject in stages allows greater penetration of knowledge into the mind of a student. Helping your child develop these habits takes consistent time and effort.
Yet we all know that rational thinking isn’t necessarily the forte of students young in age, so setting setting some time management guidelines can help such as “Do this before you do this” or “Do your work in this order,” and “Finish your homework first.” Acknowledge and praise their good habits especially since it can be too easy to criticize their bad ones.
This is the formation of mindset of a child, their understanding that they can actually accomplish something. You feedback as a parent to let them know what they are doing right is important because that’s one of the few ways they will know.
It doesn’t get any better when technology is easily available to distract a young mind so it’s right to create restrictions to allow daily study habits to take root. Be firm on this from the beginning and throughout their school experience.
When the long explanations of why it’s better to get ahead don’t work very well, you can try to appeal to for child in your own emotions. Once you share an emotional bond, then you can try the reasoning method to reinforce your message
Children respond to your sharing feelings about their needing to study rather than you trying to explain to them why they should do something that is supposed to be good for them. You don’t need to gush, but be sincere. Share a time when you don’t feel like doing something but you do it because it’s the right thing to do and you feel glad to do it even if at first you don’t feel like doing it.
A key character principle is doing the right thing even when you don’t feel like it and doing the right thing without having to be told. Encourage you children by praising them when they do the right thing, even if they didn’t feel they wanted to.
Remember, children don’t reason too well, but they can be remarkably sensitive to detecting, understanding (in their own way) your expressing how you feel.
A few more thoughts on Technology Disciplining and Development
Yes, and there are times when nothing seems to work if your child has been bitten by the technology bug, only the (temporary) removal of technology, like the issuing of a traffic citation can get their attention, seems to work in order to help them focus on their homework.
Just try not to flip out like a wild man when taking away their privilege; rather, express your concern even your honest feeling and remind them of the rules you have in place. Some of those days you wish you never even introduced the technology to them, but you have to explain what their did wrong, what the agreed to punishment is and then execute.
From what I’ve seen, children who are not left to just play with technology need encouragement to develop their other interests. In the earlier stages of tech use, when they are using technology on an individual basis, you can still take away technology for several weeks or more, however, once their circle of friends become gamers, it becomes a different story, especially if you child’s friends have parent who are, for whatever reasons, less restrictive with the use of technology.
CY
About Fatherhood in a Technological World
Fathers of young children in today’s modern society are facing unprecedented challenges with the wave of technology allowing ever easier access to the internet. The effect on your children has and will have a great influence on their growth. As a parent, you may be feeling the anxiety of having to confront the challenges of being at the end of the rail of the powerful forces driving technology into the laps and hands of your children.
Your work is cut out for you are a father. Even though popular culture doesn’t do well to herald the value of the leadership role of men in the form of fathers, let me tell you right now, being a father in this time and age has never been more important.
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